So I’m im-ing with Ferret Girl today …
FYI – she’s been dating this dude for a while now, so I figured this was a safe time to have this conversation.
Mugsy: so this is a little High Fidelity
Ferret Girl: Shoot!
Ferret Girl: Okay…
Mugsy: but I’m really trying to figure some stuff out
Mugsy: and I know you have told me in the past that you’re a messed up person, but let’s just put a pin in that for now ;)
Mugsy: I’m just trying to figure out if there is something I do, or whatever, that puts women off
Mugsy: I think you’re in a position to be able to give me some honest and useful feedback
Ferret Girl: Something you “did”?
Ferret Girl: Hardly!
Ferret Girl: I think I felt I put you off, actually.
Ferret Girl: I guess I felt that I didn’t have alot of interesting things to offer.
Ferret Girl: You’re making movies, have tons of awesome friends, tons of interesting stories/adventures/trips
Ferret Girl: it amazes me how skewed my vision is when dating.
Ferret Girl: When I started datign Shannon, he seemed way too interested in everything I did or said, I couldn’t believe anyone could find li’l old me that interesting.
Mugsy: (amusing sidenote – that’s exactly my reply to your comment about how I was doing all these things and you had nothing to offer)
Mugsy: so how did you get past that?
Ferret Girl: It took him beating it into my head that yes he really did find me interesting (like I said – I’m pretty neurotic!)
Ferret Girl: My only advice to you would be to ask the girl lots of questions, see what she likes to do/eat/read. Don’t feel threatened, and have a good time. :D
Ferret Girl: I remember when we went out with Chris to 500 Clown and in the cab I was sitting in the middle but you weren’t talking much to me – I felt like I was scaring you or something.
Mugsy: hmm
Mugsy: yeah, I tend to get easily steamrolled. I know that’s something I need to work on
Ferret Girl: The show was awesome, and we laughed alot, so I decided it was all in my head, but then we sat apart at Peninsula Club, so I thought, “….or maybe i DO scare him….?”
Ferret Girl: DAMMIT! WORK ON THAT!
Ferret Girl: YOU’RE FREAKING AWESOME!
Ferret Girl: :D
Ferret Girl: I hope you realize that.
Mugsy: ha, and see, I’m sitting there thinking “dont’ want to be too forward”
Ferret Girl: You’re definitely not too forward!
Then she got called away to do some work.
So the gist is…apparently I don’t know how to interact with woman.